Adam Lambert to America, “I am not your babysitter.” CBS gets boner from lesbian kiss.

Adam Lambert sat down with some white woman on the Early Show and was impressively mature and intelligent. Not that I would think he would be anything other, but for as much as I post about him on here, I know very little about the man off  stage.

Adam held his own, in what appeared to be, a situation where the interviewer was attempting to push an agenda or hoping to make him feel guilty for his AMA performance. Once you watch the video, her bias is hard to ignore, but that could just be me paying attention and using my ears.. who knows?

When pressed about the issue Adam stated that he wasn’t a babysitter and that it was the job of the parents to be watching their own children, especially considering his performance appeared at almost 11 o clock at night. Parents in America are notorious for blaming television for the things that are being shown to their children, rarely taking responsibility for their child’s viewing habits.  This blame game reaches well beyond the gamut of live television or even sitcoms. Family Guy is often bombarded with this kind of lazy parenting and the show even references this from time to time.

Other than coming off non apologetic and intelligent, something else happened in this clip that you may have missed.

CBS blurred out the male on male kiss from Adam’s performance, but had no issue showing the Madonna/Britney incident from years earlier. This is even more noteworthy considering Adam draws attention to the apparent double standard in television and pop music, during his interview. CBS had responded to the double standard with this.

“We gave this some real thought. The Madonna image is very familiar and has appeared countless times including many times on morning television. The Adam Lambert image is a subject of great current controversy, has not been nearly as widely disseminated, and for all we know, may still lead to legal consequences.”

The logic behind this is questionable, simply being that if it was the act that was inappropriate and not the amount of times it was viewed, both images should have been deemed inappropriate. Homophobia is alive and well, no matter how often people attempt to paint Hollywood as a liberal bastion of gay sex. Trust me… it’s not. I lived there and I was rarely offered free homosexual sex… and you know I tried!

Gross.

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Jennifer Vanasco: How Adam Lambert Is Hurting Gay Marriage

In her article, which you can read here, Jennifer Vanasco, editor in chief of 365gay.com and Huffington Post.com contributor, takes aim at the former American Idol contestant and discusses the hypocrisy seated within Lambert’s AMA performance as well as his personal views on his sexuality.

“You told Out Magazine that you didn’t make a big deal out of your sexual orientation during American Idol once pictures of you kissing a man had been exposed because:

“I don’t understand why it has to be about my sexuality. I’m just not going to talk about it one way or another. . . . And then when those pictures came out, I was like, you know what? I thought maybe I’ll just own it and say, ‘Yeah, I’m gay.’ But I didn’t want to label myself.”

That’s interesting, Adam Lambert. When you were worried about winning a contest, you didn’t want to openly attest to being gay. (And, in fact, your people were worried that you would seem “too gay” on Out’s cover.) BUT, when you wanted to make a splash in public, when you wanted to get noticed – suddenly you were all about gay sexuality.”

Vanasco goes on to criticize Lambert for his timing and lack of responsibility as a pop culture figure during a period of political uncertainty for the LGBT community.

Personally I don’t agree with everything Vanasco says in her article.  I think she comes off a bit irrational and her article’s title doesn’t hide her disdain for Lambert as a public figure either, but she does have some valid points.  For ABC to even acknowledge the measly 1,500 complaints about Adam Lambert’s performance and then cancel his Good Morning America performance the following day, when the entire show was loaded with acts from straight, female performers shaking their beef baskets in front of the masses, was not only incredibly hypocritical but nothing more than a knee jerk reaction to a situation that needed no handling.

No matter what your views may be on the situation, one thing is clear.  It’s a telling sign of our society that a badly choreographed song and dance by a boy in eyeliner has more political sway than all of the elected representatives and grass roots campaigns combined.

I’m depressed now.  I need a little cake.

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Bakersfield has the cure for gays and it rhymes with schmull-shit.

Let me preface this article by saying I, in no way, intend to portray both sides of this argument with a neutral eye. I believe it does a great disservice to truth when we attempt to be objective about every subject. There is no more journalistic integrity in portraying the “positives” of reparative therapy than there is in being neutral on the subject of  segregation.

A recent news piece from KGET channel 17 delves into the myths about “reparative therapy“, that is, the idea that homosexuality can be cured through faith and any other number of unproven and potentially dangerous methods. The idea of repairing or changing someones sexuality may seem as comical as praying for lighter skin or changing ones ethnicity,  however,  in the world of abject stupidity, there are few fields that are not staffed with an army of professional extremists.

Phillip Lee, of His Way Out ministries will tell you, that not only is changing ones sexuality possible, but that he is living proof of it.

“I spent 17 years in what many refer to as the gay lifestyle,” Lee said. “I found out, like so many others, that to call homosexuality gay is a contradiction.”

No more of a contradiction than claiming faith is fact though, or so it would seem. I am sure I am just splitting hairs at this point… right.

Phillip runs his service out of a downtown Bakersfield office and claims to be working with 100 individuals dealing with identity issues and “sexual brokenness”, which isn’t an actual clinical term anymore than Taco Bell could be considered fine Mexican food. A quick search engine query will pull up several sites that link the creation and use of the term with churches and Christian ministry groups. The message here is pretty simple.

“When reality lets you down, make shit up.”

The problem with this type of activity is that these individuals are often dragged into these situations against their will, by poorly educated and ill informed parents. These “conversion therapy” procedures often do irreparable harm to their patients, causing immense self doubt, self hatred and shame. The process is so dangerous and controversial that the American Psychological Association has gone on record to oppose and discourage it, adding that no evidence has shown any such thing is possible, but plenty exists to demonstrate the harm it causes the patient.

Scientifically, there’s not enough evidence to measure the counseling effectiveness, said CSUB counseling psychology professor Kathleen Ritter, who says sexual orientation is a complex topic.

“The longest time that any population was followed in any study is six months so we don’t know if that initial ‘Oh I changed’ held.”

Ritter helped review the American Psychological Association’s guidelines http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/guidelines on sexual orientation and efforts to change it.

Through the guideline, the APA resolved homosexuality is not a mental disorder and mental health professionals should avoid telling clients they can change their sexual orientation through therapy or other treatments.

Ritter doesn’t suggest conversion therapy for her patients in her private practice, but says it would be unethical to persuade someone from using of it.

“We don’t want to look like we have the religious people on one end and psychologists on the other and that we’re fighting each other. Because that’s not true.” Ritter said.

I will take Kathleen Ritter’s last statement and expand upon it a little more. While this may not be about religion versus psychology, it has everything to do with reason and logic versus blind intolerance and ignorance. There is little point in arguing against that, but it still warrants being said.

Later on in the segment, Whitney Weddel, chair of the Bakersfield LGBTQ organization was introduced and offered another counter argument to the junk science that was being peddled.

Whitney goes on to say…

“For years in schools, people were forced to not be left handed. We know now these are wonderfully diverse ways of being normal,” said activist Whitney Weddell. “The 100 kids that come in with their parents, I wonder how many parents drag them in and are being forced to this therapy that is just a waste of time.”

There is currently a poll on the KGET website that asks its visitors to state whether they believe people can become “straight” through reparative therapy. The poll has gone up and down over the night, but there is still a dangerously high percentage of people who believe it’s possible. It is very unlikely that any of those people will be reading this, but in the off chance, let’s have a quick look at one of the many forms of this “healthy” and “loving” spiritual therapy.

If you can stand to watch the video long enough to get past her butchery of the English language, maybe you can answer me this. Is it wrong for me to find it so comical, that a people once bonded into slavery through the use of the Bible, are now using that same book to bond others?

If you visit, “His Way Out” ministries you will find a website that is in much need of a redesign and apparently money. The good lord seems to have the power to undo the mistakes he supposedly made, but lacks the ability to give his followers the money they need to continue. On closer inspection, there is plenty of false information on the website, as well as vague and conveniently shadow like speak about the actual process or outcome of these therapies. Outside of “working within the holy spirit of the lord”, there is little information on the actual process of turning one against their inner nature. It has long been believed that these therapies change no one, but are successful in shaming the individuals into denying their true identity.

It would seem to me that the Lord needs to worry less about homosexuals and more about those in need.

Might I suggest these people?

In the end, there is little to be said about this topic that is not already surrounding us. Discussing the pros and cons of these therapies is akin to weighing the downsides and upsides of being burned alive.  Sure, you may survive the process, but you will never be yourself again.

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ABC gets 1,500 complaints about Adam Lambert, no one notices the rest of the peash-tacular night.

Apparently Adam Lambert has caused a “moderate” controversy at ABC, provoking the hand of sexually repressed Americans to call the network and complain. ABC stated that around 1,500 calls were made to the station to complain about the racy and inappropriate nature of his performance, all the while seemingly forgetful that the rest of the night had been loaded with skin tight vaginas and sexually explicit acts by several other performers. However, it seems that in America, female pop stars can be freely objectified and openly sexual, but a man (let alone a gay man) can not.

I wrote an extensive post about the event last night and while I didn’t care for his act and found the over the top nature boring, I don’t think it warrants calling a televisions network. If you are stupid enough to watch a pop music show and expect to see Jesus and Bob Dole, you’re an idiot. Anyone with a pair of functioning eyes and a short term memory can tell you that pop music is nothing more than sex, plastic and shit. Hell, Helen Keller has a firmer grasp on reality than these twits. No, you know what? Twit is not nearly strong enough a word for them, I say we create a new term. A term that broadly defines sexually repressed people, working under the assumption that theirs is the only acceptable view of life, all the while hypocritically calling out certain individuals and leaving others alone.

I say we call them cunt knucklers.

America needs to get over their fear of sexuality, but Adam better hope he has another chance at a solid career. I have not read this many bad reviews for a performance since Britney Spears did that half assed dance a few years back.

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Man gets fired for homophobic remarks and poorly manicured eyebrows.

This poor guy, life is just so hard for a bigot these days.

Peter Vadala was fired from his job at Brookestone for making homophobic remarks and is now claiming religious intolerance was his downfall. When confronted about the incident on Fox & Friends (whatever the hell that is) he made his case exponentially worse by having a poor understanding of the English language. He incriminated himself several times and admitted he called a fellow employee a deviant after informing her that God had asked him to alert her to his displeasure with her and her “lifestyle choice”. Oh and he had some crazy eyebrows too.

During the interview Peter laments being a victim of religious intolerance after he told a woman that he felt her lifestyle was immoral and that she shouldn’t speak about it in the work place. He makes several remarks about her “supposed” fiance, as if because he has a problem with her partner or homosexuality, the lesbians relationship is somehow no longer valid. What makes matters worse is that he feels the need to go and pray about it during his lunch break and there he decides that he has to confront the woman and tell her to discontinue talking about her life because it personally offends him.Whoops. The lesbian co workers response?

“She laughed in my face and told me to keep my opinions to myself and to go see the human resources department.”

After watching the clip, his cries of “so called” victimization are shut down by his “supposed” non gay looking face. Seriously though, major gay face.

When the host reads a statement from Peter’s former employer and asks him if he plans on bringing suit against the company, he launches into a poorly worded tirade in the hopes of coming across as the victim one last time.

Let’s try and reword this for those who may not be following fully.

Black Woman “I love my new husband, he is so great. Sure, things are tough sometimes because he is white, but we enjoy each other.”

Peter “I went to the church and prayed and god told me to tell you that your lifestyle choice is a sin and your “so called” husband is a perversity to god.

Black Woman “That is incredibly racist and offensive and I am pretty sure this company does not tolerate that kind of language.”

Peter “No, as a Christian I can be intolerant of whomever I want as long as I claim religious freedom. You should take the day off, nigger.”

Hopefully that cleared up any misconceptions we had. In short, this pencil neck got everything he deserved.

Fox no longer allows people to embed their clips, mainly because they do such a horrible job at being “fair and balanced” that they get slammed all over the Internet and they are tired of being the butt of everyone’s joke. However, you can click here to watch the clip.

Pay close attention to the “questions” that are placed in the lower 1/3 of the screen. Things like ‘freedom under fire?” or “Religious expulsion?” don’t really read as fair and balanced, especially considering none of them say anything along the lines of, “grown man acts like jackass and gets what he deserves?”

Fox News, you really do lower the bar on everything.

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America’s Harry Potter stands up for gay rights.

10 year old Arkansas student,  Will Phillips, has refused to say the pledge of allegiance until all people are treated equally.

In this clip you will see young Will with his father, explaining his reasons for feeling this way and the thought process that led up to it.  If you notice, he looks like Harry Potter just a tad bit and that makes this clip even better.

Am I nerd?

Screw you.

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Gay Puerto Rican teenager brutally murdered, decapitated and burned.

 

George Steven Lopez Mercado, a 19 year old teenager from Puerto Rico, was found brutally murdered, burned, dismembered and decapitated this weekend in the small town of Cayey, Puerto Rico. George’s body was found off an isolated road and his arms and legs had been removed. According to Christopher Pagan, the individual who filed the iReport, the incident had gained little notice until picked up by the sites Towelroad.com and 365gay.com.

What makes matters even worse is that the police investigator alluded to the idea that George was asking for this to happen to him by claiming, “People who live this lifestyle need to be aware this will happen”. It is unknown as to what he meant by this statement and whether or not he was alluding to George’s sexuality or assuming George was engaging in risky sexual behavior. Currently, individuals are calling for the replacement of this investigator, with someone seemingly unbiased.

This has caused a huge reaction from the gay community here, but its a difficult situation. Never in the history of Puerto Rico has a murder been classified as a hate crime.  Even though we have to follow federal mandates and laws, many of the laws in which are passed in the USA such as Obama’s new bill, do not always directly get practiced in Puerto Rico.  The police agent that is handling this case said on a public televised statement that “people who lead this type of lifestyle need to be aware that this will happen”.  As If the boy murdered Jorge Steven Lopez was asking to get killed

We have a gay rights activist in Puerto Rico Pedro Julio Serrano. Who does his best to defend these hateful acts, but the international attention is needed for this local government to wake up and give us the needed rights and proper justice to such hateful crimes.  I You are the biggest beacon of hope in such horrific events to be made known.

More information can be found at TowleRoad.com

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Gay American Heroes, sans the tights.

Gay American Heroes, looks to be a non profit group dedicated to remembering the victims of lgbt related hate crimes. The site has a video that is circulating around the Internet and has popped up a few times today on my Facebook account.

According to their website, they travel around the country with a mobile memorial that contains the names of hate crimes victims. A great and honorable cause… however, I have a few problems with this and they are strictly visual.

Why does EVERYTHING have to be rainbows? As a gay man, when did we all vote that rainbows represented us all? Why not something cool like an alien with lasers shooting out of his eyes, while he is screaming, “FUCK YOU, I AM GETTING MARRIED!”

Sure, we would turn some people off, but wouldn’t that be exponentially cooler than a a rainbow? Rainbows seem weak and ineffectual. Not only are they overly used in the gay community, but in that vein they are used for everything when it comes to design. I long for the day when I can see the word gay and it’s no where near a rainbow.

I hope I am not murdered this year, because I would hate to be involved with such a great project, only to have my face plastered next to a fuchsia wall panel.

Their website needs some major work as well and I am tempted to email  them and offer my services for free, just so that they can look as professional as their cause deserves.

Visual disagreements aside, this seems to be a great cause and there needs to be more attention drawn to anyone murdered or persecuted for their sexuality.

This guy is too good looking to be so sad.

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